Letters from Margaret Loring Stephenson
to Jesse Stephenson, her Brother
1800 - 1810

Cohasset Mary 27, 1800
My dear brother,
I hope you will excuse my not writing to you before when I tell you I have had nothing heretofore, hat could in the least interest you. I have been very lately unsettled in my plans for the summer, and consequently had nothing very pleasant to myself to write. About three weeks ago, I had three in view. One at Hingham, one at Scituate, and one in Cohasset, in the academy; where they wished me to teach chiefly, painting and needlework. I was for some time at a loss which to take. But, at length determined in favor of the one at Cohasset, as I should have that a year, and the others six months only. Last Monday, I commenced keeping. I except thirty schollars. The committee contemplate having a preceptor soon, who I expect will hear part or all of them read. My wages are one hundred and twenty-two dollars a year. I board at Mr. Sam Brown's. Mrs. Brown is a charming woman, and I expect to spend my hours out of school very pleasantly with her. Well, I believe I have said enough of schools.
When you wrote last, you requested me to let you know whether Mr. Lincoln had sold our place or not. I am sorry to inform you, (if it will be any disadvantage to you) that he has not. He said it must be advertised for sale nintey days, on uncle Luke's account; and then, the season for improving it would be so far advanced, it would be best not to sell it until next spring. I was not a little rejoiced to hear that Mr. Harden was willing to bound for you. I thought it pretty evident proof of good behaviour in you. I hope you will continue to conduct so as that he will have no occasion to repent doing it.
You are not ignorant how much your future wellfare depends on your present good behavior; and trust you will act so as to able to look back on a life well spent. I have been to Boston since I saw you and made a short visit. Elisha, poor child, complained terribly of the headache, and seemed quite low spirited. Rachel is very well and is now in Jerusalem on a visit. Joanna says you cracked her heart in a thousand pieces, saying good bye to her when you went away. I hope I shall not have the same effect on your's by subwriting myself your sincere friend and affectionate sister,
P.L. Stephenson

Hingham, May 9, 1803.
My dear brother,
You will surprised at my writing from Hingham, but not when I tell you that I have taken a school here for six months. O, what an undertaking. Now methinks I can hear you say, it is just nothing, a mere play. But I can tell you, you have formed an erronious opinion of the matter. It is an employment which ought interest every one who is concerned in it. I have about thirty schollars, many of them small consequently they require more attention. The school is to be visited once in three months by twelve trustees, all sensible men, to hear the schollars read and spell, and to view their writings. Is this not enough to fill a thinking mind with anxiety. I believe you will acknowledge it is. But I will have done with my school and hasten upon a more pleasing subect, such as the reception of your letter, for which I sincerely thank you. How did my heart rejoice to hear of your safe arrival at the destined port and that you found employment to your mind so soon after it. Yes, believe me, my brother, when I tell you I feel so deeply interested in your welfare as I do in my own and should anything operate to your disadvantage, it would as deeply wound me. But this we must leave to that Being who governs the universe, and who is acquainted with all our concerns. "Act well our past, there all honor lies." I would advise you to be temperate in your pleasure. You tell me there is but very little good company on the island. I hope you are able to distinguish between the good and the bad, and will have an inclination to love the one and resolution to avoid the other. Remember, my dear, your character will soon be formed, whatever stamp it now takes, it will be likely to retain. I would not have you wholly exclude society on the contrary, I would have you partake of every rational amusement in a reasonable degree, but I would have you avoid the quicksands on which thousands have fatally grounded, your own good sense, with nature consideration will point them out to you. Elisha came to see me last Saturday. He said he saw Rachel that morning well. I believe he is very much determined to learn a coopers trade. I cannot write any more for it is school time. I shall send this by Mr. Barnes, who is going to Passamaquoddy in a Hingham Packet. You must write by him if you possibly can, if not, the first opportunity. May every blessing attend thee, my dear brother.
P.L.Stephenson

Cohasset July 4, 1805
My dear brother--
It is so long since I wrote you, I am apprehensive your friends in Eastport will again try to prevail on you to believe your friends in Cohasset have all forgotten you and by this means endeavor to engross you wholly to themselves. This may have been the case already which has been the cause of your long silence. How to apologize for mine I am at a loss. If I plead want of time as an excuse it will be but a paltry one. Therefore, I believe I had better not endeavor to offer any but get upon something more interesting and I know of nothing that will interest you more than to hear I am well and again seated in a school. I have partly engaged for nine months but not absolutely for more than six (for I had rather not keep through the winter season) for three dollars a week. I board at Capt. Stephenson's. Capt. Stephenson arrived to Boston from Lisbon last Monday, came down to Cohasset Tuesday and yesterday took his wife to Boston with him to keep Independance. There is to be Great and Mighty things seen and heard, I suppose. There is a man to fly perpendicularly in the air in the form of a Peacock, (fifty to three hundred feet). Only think of the imposition. In the evening there is to be an exhibition of the handsomest fireworks that ever were presented in this country. But I imagine that you and I shall neither be wiser nor better for them.
I suppose you have heard of the sale of our little patrimony, but perhaps you have not heard the amount thereof which was one thousand and seven hundred eighty-six dollars, fifty-one cents. Deacon Lincoln wishes you to write me when you think it probable you shall come up to receive your part, and he will endeavor to get the money ready for you. Do come this summer if possible or before bad storms come on in the Fall. In your last you mentioned having a house and getting a housekeeper. I should like to know for what length of time you hired her, whether for a month a year or for life. I should advise you by all means, provided you can find a virtuous woman who will be willing to engage for the term, to procure one for life. A housekeeper who does not feel it her duty to take care of your interest I am fearful will not for another more weighty reason, I would advise against such a place Your character, my dear, you must be sensible will be very liable to censure in such a situation. I presume you will give these things a due consideration and will act with propriety. If you conclude to take a wife, perhaps I shall consent to Elisha's coming to live with you. He, poor child, complains bitterly because I will not let him leave Mr. Burr now and go immediately East, but I think he had better stay this summer if he possibly can and go to school next winter. By next Spring you will get more established in business and then I think I would consent to his coming provided he could go into a store with you. I am feeling persuaded he will never be able to work at his trade, and excepting tending a store, I know of no business he could do. Since I wrote the above, Elisha has made a short visit to Cohasset. He is so unwell, he has been obliged to leave Mr. Burr entirely. He has gone to Boston today to prepare to make you a visit at the first opportunity. I think a tour on the water may be of some service to him. Do assist him all in your power. It is school time and I must go. My respects to all your good friends.
Yours & Peggy L. Stephenson. Monday morning.

Cohasset December 9, 1806.
My ever dear brother-
And in sorrow, doubly dear. I would inform you that I received your letter of the 18th of November, yesterday. I was not a little hurt on reading it, at your complaints of me and your readiness to relinquish the affections of now your only sister. In what I wrote you last, (which probably you had not received when you wrote) I informed you of the state of Rachel's health. But alas! how little did we think I should so soon be called to give you an account of her death. O! how brittle the thread which connects us with time. This gives melencholly testamony of our insecurity and of perhaps the most unexpected we are called in the bitterness of our souls, to part with the dearest of our connexions. This, my dear, has been our case, for though I was apprehensive of Rachel's never being well again, yet I thought she might get better and perhaps live many years. But she was very singularly affected and nothing the physician prescribed during her illness gave her the least relief. After I wrote you, she remained without any material alteration until Thursday, November 22, at which time I was sent for about noon with the news that she was much worse. When I arrived to Mr. Lothrop's she had just come out of a fit; but was in such dreadful distress, it was enough to break one's heart to see her!! When I went in I asked if she knew me, she said "yes" I asked her if she was glad to see me, she said "yes", but she took no notice of me and appeared insensible to everything. She continued having her fits as often as once an hour, all the afternoon. The doctor said her fits were "histeric" and he did not think her dangerous-- She might live three days in the same condition and recover her health again. About five o'clock he bled her after which she lay longer between fits; once she had a respite of three hours and a half. She lay in a stupid kind of a frame and it was with difficulty we could rouse her sufficient to get anything into her. The doctor staid until eight o'clock the next morning. He said then he could do nothing different from what he had directed me. He would go home but would return again in the afternoon Very soon after he went her fits returned upon her as frquent as ever and more distressing if possible than they were the day before. She remained in that situation until four o'clock when she had her last fit. The doctor came again about dark. The moment he saw her he pronounced her much worse, he found her very much altered and very different from what he expected. Her fits then seemed apoplectic. He bled her again, after which her circulations were better. He then said there was an equal chance for her to get well again. But he was very much deceived. She remained in that death-like sleep, fetching every with a groan, until she died, which was about six o'clock Saturday morning. it would be impossible for me to describe to you my feelings at that time. I sent directly to Boston for Elisha. If it had been so that you could have been at the funeral it would have been great satisfaction to us both, but this could not be and we must learn to think whatever is, is right and submit ourselves in all things to the direction of God; knowing he never willingly afficts any of his children-- but they may be benefitted thereby. Let us, my dear, strive to make a suitable improvement of the repeated trouble He sees fit to inflict upon us.
I spent Thanksgiving Day Eve at aunt James. Such a gloomy one as I never spent before. Elisha was there or I would have sunk. I beg you not to be so ceremonious about writing but write every opportunity, for we know not how soon by some unforseen accident we shall be deprived of the power of writing.
Yours &
Peggy L. Stephenson.

Wiscasset, August 29, 1809
My dear brother--
How excessively you pained me by a relation of Elisha's very ill health. I had flattered myself before the receipt of your very great favor, that he had recovered entirely, but how deceived was I. I still hope and fear that I may still be deceived. I am beyond measure anxious about him. I can only see him as you described him after the loss of so much blood, pale, emaciated and unable to turn himself in bed. But I pray God that my fears may be imaginary. Do everything you can, I beseech you, to restore him and not want for anything that can make him comfortable. I now, more than ever, regret that I cannot be with you to asist in alleviating his pains. I cannot express half the anxiety I feel on his account.
It is dark and I am very much plagued with preparing an exhibition at the academy and I can only request you to write the moment you receive this, and I doubly pray that it may be something favorable as it respects Elisha. Give my best love to him, and you wife and child. Do not forget me.
M.L.Stephenson

Wiscasset October 16, 1809.
My dear brother--
How gratified I was to hear of Elisha's convalesant health. I am glad he left this hostile climate for a more temperate one. I sincerely hope through the blessing of God it will have a lending to restore him to good health, though I very much fear that the boisterous element which he has to traverse, will prove too powerful for his weak health and delicate lungs, and promote bleeding at the nose again; but I pray God that it may not.
It delights me to hear that he has made so many friends at Eastport, who seem willing to assist him. He has been peculiarly fortunate in this respect; and I think him (without partiality) admirably calculated to gain the esteem and friendship of those he assosiates with. It gives me great pleasure to think you have been so attentive to him. Mr. Delesdernier informed me that you had done everything for him that a brother could do. I hope you will continue your kindness to him. I am sorry I have it not in my power to loan you the money which you borrowed for him; but I find it difficult to get as much as I want for present use, the times have been such. I hope, however, that you will meet with no inconvenience about it. If you get any news of my brother earlier than you think I can, I wish you to forward it to me as soon as possible. I sincerely hope you will yet prosper in your business and be able to obtain a competing for yourself and family. I feel deeply interested for you and them. Give my best love to your wife, I am afraid I shall never have the pleasure of seeing her. I intended to have sent the little Margaret something by your friend; but I was o anxious about Elisha, and was so engaged in making his things all the time he was here, that I did not think of it when he went.
My best wished attend you and yours.
Margaret L. Stephenson
Since I wrote the above, I have received a letter from Elisha. he writes in good spirits. The physicians he says speak encouragingly. He was not very minute, however. He had just arrived, and observed that his head was not yet quite divested of the Eastport fogs. He speaks in the highest terms of his Eastport friends.
Margaret.

Wiscasset January 24, 1810.
My dear Brother--
With a heart pained and grieved I write. Our dear Elisha is evidently declining. Every day makes new ravages upon him, to see him thus rapidly verging at such an early and interesting period of life to the grave. he seems calculated to live and to please-- to be both useful and ornamental to society, and why he must be thus early snatched from hence, God alone knows. The ways are indeed mysterious and past finding out, but we must think always wisely ordered. Perhaps He is taking him from the evil to come. His life has been such that I must but believe He is calling him to happiness and glory. The ?world (   ) has not hitherto held out many (  ) for him, nor does he seem to be strongly attached to it. Though I have never said anything to him respecting his leaving it. His spirits are very low and he needs to be cheered and encouraged as much as possible. When he first came here he seemed to be getting better, but he has failed very fast lately. I shall omit nothing to make him comfortable while he lives. he had a very kind letter from a Mr. ? Cheny who offered to furnish him with money were he in need. he wishes to write Mr. cheny for his offer but is too unwell today. You and I can supply him I am sure. Fifteen dollars of the money you sent him will not pass. he will send it to you again I believe. You may possibly pass it to the person you took it of. He mentioned last night htat he hoped you would collect some that was due on the firm and send him. Elisha does not know that I am writing as I write from school and when you write to him, do not let him know of having received it nor mention anything of his not being so well, but write to me separately soon. I have written in such a hurry that I fear you cannot read it.
Yours ever
Margaret L. Stephenson.

Wiscasset, March 6, 1810.
My dear Brother--
I am commisioned again to write for Elisha, he being too feeble to use the pen much. You very warmly pressed him in your last to return to Eastport, but he is too unwell at present to go either by land or water. He seems well contented here, and it is my wish to make him comfortable. He seems well satisfied with what is done for him, and I would not consent to his leaving here for Eastport in his present weak state, even if he thought himself able and wished to go. Respecting the business between N.B. and S. Bucknam and yourself, Elisha wishes to know why the deposition  must be taken before two justices, one of the quorum and the other not, and he will get taken and send it to you, and you must get it recorded at Machias. He wishes you to write him before he gets the deposition taken.
I am happy to hear of the health of your family and the birth of your little daughter, and I hope and believe you will not neglect to "train up your children in the way they should go," sensible that great care and responsibility devolves upon you when you are a husband and father. Elisha feels very much complemented by your sending to him for a name, and he thinks of none which he prefers to CAROLINE. I hope Mrs. Stephenson will be pleased with it for his sake.
Elisha is much obliged by your offering to procure anything he may want. he will thank you to send him more money as soon as you can. He bids me say likewise that he will write Bucknam the first day he feels himself able. He desires his love to you and your family-- mine you always have. Do write soon, I beseech you.
Margaret L. Stephenson.

Wiscasset, May 28, 1810.
My dear and now I must say only brother--
I cannot upbraid you, but it is unaccountable to me that you have not written to me in this season of affliction. I greatly fear that you are sick or that something melancholy has happened to you, but I pray heaven my fears may be groundless. it seems that my heart would break if any evil were to befall you, but God only knows what we can bear and is only able to "temper the wind to the shorn lamb" Hitherto He has been my support and carried me through scenes which in prospect seemed unsupportable. You have undoubtly received the letter from Mr. Packard, bearing the doleful tidings of our dear brother's death. I have ever since been expecting a letter from you and have delayed writing until the acceptance of it, but I cannot wait longer. O my brother! never did I experience such a winter as the past. To be a constant witness of our sweet brother's sufferings, and to know it was entirely out of my power to relieve him, was distress beyond anything I ever before felt. His sufferings were the last three weeks of his life, beyond description--yet he did not open his mouth by the way of complaint. He may truly be said to have been a pattern of patience. he seemed perfectly sensible of his situation and was anxious for the hour to come which he believed would end his sufferings. He saw Mr. Packard, often conversed with him and with me. At first he had some fears and doubts on his mind; but by degrees they subsided, and he died hoping and believing that God would have mercy on him, and receive him into His heavenly home through His Son, Jesus Christ, and I think we may have every reason to think that his hope was well grounded, for when we take a retrospect of his life and view him passing that period of it which is most thickly beset with snares and temptation, wholly uncorrupted as he appeared to be, we are ready to ask, who can be saved if such an one is cast off. Although when in health, he was uniformly gay and cheerful yet he was always innocently so. Indeed we have lost a truly pleasant brother-- amiable in his disposition, agreeable in his manners, moral in his habits, religious in his principles and kindly affectionate toward all his friends and acquaintances. How often it is that those who are the most fit to live in this world are the earliest called from it. We know not why these things are, but we have every reaosn to think they are for some good purpose and that they are taken from the evil to come. "The Lord gave and the Lord hath taken away" and we ought reconcile our minds to the event so far as to be able to say "Blessed is the Name of the Lord"
The deposition you mentioned was never taken. Elisha grew sick so fast after you mentioned it, his lungs so excessively weak, and his voice so gone that it seemed an exertion he was not adequate to. He did not speak a loud word for many weeks before his death and many times it was with difficulty we could hear him speak by getting the ear close to him. You will pardon him, I know, and not think hard of him for the sweet sufferer had enough to think of and enough to bear. You can have no idea of it-- Almost his last words to me were" Do write to Jesse and remember me kindly to him. Tell him it is my dying request that he will keep himself "unspotted from the world" that he will shun vice of every description for it is an awful thing to die and to appear before our Maker who knows all our thoughts works and actions and will judge us accordingly to what they have been. Warn him to flee form the wrath to come by living the life of the righteous. Do, my dear brother, regard his last injunction, for we, too, must soon be summoned to that bourne whence no traveller returns! I am fully persuaded that health is the time to prepare for death. A whole life is not too long to prepare for that awful period. God grant that we, my dear brother, may be found ready whenever it arrives. it was Elisha's request to be buried under Masonic Rites. The Masons immediately came forward and took over the direction and expence of the funeral upon themselves. Of course, it will not be necessary for you to send any money. About other expenses we were at on his account I shall gladly pay, and continuously say that I devise my greatest consolation from the idea that I have tended him, watched over him and done for him all in my power. Do write soon, I beseech you. 
M.L.Stephenson

Wiscasset April 10, 1812
My dear Brother--
I have but a few moments to write as Mr. Piper, who will take this is just about leaving here for Eastport-- I cannot deny myself the pleasure of writing however if it be little. I have intended writing you a long letter in answer to the one you sent me the first part of the winter. But I was at Cohasset at that time preparing to be married and you must suppose I had not a little to do since my return to Wiscasset. I have been at board and so much interrupted by company that I could not conveniently write. My husband will write you soon and would by this opportunity were he not very much  engaged.
I left our friends well at Cohasset and desirous to see you. I was glad to hear of the birth of your son and pleased that you had named him Elisha. I hope it will live and be a blessing to it's parents and that you will all enjoy abundantly the smiles of Heaven. I can write no more at present only to advise you not enter into any business with Mr. Piper. He is thought here not to be altogether sane at times and has lost much of his respectability. Intimate nothing of the kind to him but treat him civilly.
Margaret L. Stearns.

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